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My grandfather is always asked to give a speech on secrets to a good marriage everytime somebody in the clan gets married. What's interesting about it is that he almost always gives out the same speech every time.

S.A.L.T is the secret to a good marriage according to him. He begins by telling this story:

An old king one day asked his three daughters how much they loved him. The first daughter said that he loved his father as much as she loves all the gold in the kingdom. The second daughter said that he loved her father as much she loves all the silver in the kingdom. The king was so delighted with both of his daugters. Finally the youngest daughter was asked how much she loves him. The youngest daughter said that she loves her father as much as she loves salt. The king was furious with this response, imagine comapring her love to that of the lowly salt. So she banished her youngest to serve in the kitchen.

The king's youngest daughter the instructed the cook not to put salt in all the king's dishes. Because of this the king slowly loss his appetite for the food that was served that he became very sick. He then asked the cook to explain why the food is not as tasty as before. The cook then told him that his youngest daughter instructed her not to put salt in all the king's dishes. When the king heard this, he was furious. He asked his youngest daughter to explain her actions. She explained to her father that she was only demonstrating how much she loved him. The old king finally finally realized how important salt is. He finally understood that his youngest daughter loved him so much more than her two sisters.

My grandfather then continues to explain that the key to a successful, loving and a good marriage therefore is SALT. You have to love you spouse as much as you love salt. He then gives a definition for the acronym S.A.L.T.:

S - Share - When a man and a woman enter into married life, they have to remember that they are considered as one flesh. Each of them must not have a selfish attitude. Each one must share with each other whatever blessings may come to their life. If the husband or wife is invited to a fancy restaurant and taste a good meal, he should plan to bring his or her spouse there someday to share the wonderful experience. Sharing does not only speak about the blessings or the good experiences in life. There should be also a sharing of the burdens and responsibilities in the marriage.

A - Attention - Couples must give attention to each other. While it is all right to spend some time with friends and other interest, most of our time and interest must be spent with our family especially with our spouses. Oftentimes we hear a familiar story wherein the husband complains that the wife keeps on chatting with her friends on the phone or going out with friends. On the other hand wives complains that their husbands just comes home and sits in front of the T.V watching sports or worst comes home very early, that is early in the morning because he was out with his buddies for a drinking spree.

L - Live within your means - Most experts say that the leading cause of marital problems is due to the couple's financial misunderstandings. To avoid this, before and even after marriage, each couple must sit down and work out a guideline on how they should handle money. Budgeting, savings and investments should be seriously considered by each and every couple to avoid money problems.

T - Trust - This is the foundation for all a good marriage. This is so because if you do not trust your spouse, you shatter his or her confidence. If couples learn to trust each other then they will be more assured that they are loved and they will be more confident enabling each of them to achieve more in life.

The principle of S.A.L.T may be simplistic but it worked for my grandfather and grandmother because they had a good marriage for the past 50 years. It is my hope and my prayer that you will learn something from it and that you will have a good marriage as well.

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Want to know more principles about a good marriage, investments, financial management, how to invest in the Philippine stock market and other very interesting topics ? Visit the blog of Zigfred Diaz where he writes about these topics.

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