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Ask two people what they think love is and you will get two completely different answers. For most people love is a combination of things which are often quite confusing. Love can be respect or trust, burden or blessing and wonderful or terrifying.

People filter everything they experience and it allows them to have different perceptions on different experiences. This is why the perception of love is different for different people. We can now talk about the importance of love in our lives.

In the early 1950's, a psychologist of the time emerged. His name was Harry Harlow. This medical professional of the mind conducted many studies relating to the cause and effect of relationships and isolation in the lives of many people. He hoped to conclude that each of us had a need for basic companionship and certain "caring" relationships in the life. In his findings, he did conclude that some type of love is essential in order for a person to have a solid, stable life.

Moreover, Maslow suggested a hierarchy of needs for humans and love is very close to the top after food, water and shelter. This backs up the theory suggested by Harry Harlow.

In the basic structure of "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs", there is a core component that lays the foundation that we all have "social needs". It has been concluded that individuals must experience some level of an emotional relationship that involves friendship, physical and emotional intimacy, communication with others that is positive in nature, and basic love.

Love allows us to feel as if we "belong" - that we have a special place in not only the world as a whole, but in the world of another and our own world. When we love, and that love is returned, we experience a sense of acceptance. Those that fail to experience love firsthand may suffer through many different negative consequences.

Many symptoms that can arise from not being loved or not loving someone can be any one of the follows:

1. A feeling of isolation and loneliness. This could be different for different areas of life. Some people may feel isolated at home while some just feel isolated at work.

3. A feeling of anxiety in social context when around people.

3. As a result of collective symptoms, depression may be the ultimate problem.

4. Depression and negative thoughts may in some cases lead to suicidal tendencies. In some rare cases, the thoughts are followed by action.

It is not so simple to define love. It can be said that love is quite close to the process of acceptance. The acceptance of others exactly as they are and looking for the best in people. It is also the feeling of being accepted by others for who you truly are, without putting on an act.

About the Author

I am not a love expert but I run the site love calculator for cool comparisons of names and their matches. It is not just another love calculator.

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