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by: JayReiss,M.S.W.
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I'm an Online Dating Coach, and many of the ads I see on the Internet are shocking! There are some (often written by guys looking for women) who write their ads like they're trying to sell used furniture in the classified section of their daily papers! The women's ads are often just as bad - often containing very little substantial information - or the ads just come across as demanding.

Here's one example. This ad was submitted by a woman in her early 40's -

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"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"

We can immediately see that this woman likes to communicate (and that's a good thing, yes?) and she also enjoys "talking about everything" - including "books that have struck you bizarre." (Are we talking about Stephen King novels here?) In addition to that, it would be great if you (as a guy) can talk about "politics, places, and wine" - but the main thing is that you love chocolate?

It would be interesting to see which types of guys reply to this ad!

Or - take a look at this online personal ad, from a 29-year-old guy who describes himself as a "Tattoo Teddy Bear" --

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"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."

Short, sweet, and to the point, yes?

It's at moments like this when I can really understand why men and women just don't understand each other!

One of the secrets to writing effective online personal ads is to write your ads just like you're having a real, live conversation with your reader.

In other words, here is a list of what to avoid:

1. Don't write your ad so it sounds like advertising copy from a magazine.

2. Don't talk in a condescending manner. Be polite and treat everyone like your equal!

3. Don't write a one-sentence ad and expect to get many replies!

Instead, here are some of the things that you absolutely should be doing --

1. Mention some of your hobbies, interests, and what you enjoy doing on a date. Try to paint an accurate yet imaginative picture of yourself as a real person (and an interesting person at that!)

2. Give your reader a sense of how they will feel when you two are together on a date. Put yourself in the shoes of your reader. Be empathic, be sensitive to their needs, and try to anticipate what they might be thinking and feeling while reading your online personal ad.

3. What are some of your best personality characteristics? What are some of the things that people really appreciate about you? Here's the place to really sell yourself by listing your intangible qualities.

4. Why should your reader respond to your ad right now? Here's the place to motivate them!

5. Last but not least - use a spell-checker and make sure that both your spelling and your grammar are correct before your ad is published!

By creating an honest and empathic dialog with your reader when writing your online personal ads, you'll be way ahead of most of your competitors for the attention of the women - or men - you'd like to hear from the most!

About the Author

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