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by: SaraMusfeldt
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I've been broken up with in many ways and it's been awful every time. I'm sure that's how it is for most of us since there's no great, easy way to do it. But there are things you can do to make it respectful and a little easier to cope with.

Don't be fearful of doing the break-up face to face. Show respect for yourself and the other person and break-up while looking that person in the eye.

Don't break up in a public place. There's nothing worse than having total strangers watch you fall apart. Pick a mutually comfortable spot with very few other people around.

A long meal could be too much to endure with anger and tears overcoming the person, so keep the meeting short. Better off for every one is a quick break-up date.

Avoid the clich and don't say the following: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" and "It's not you, it's me."

Recognize the other person's feelings and when it's proper, white lies are OK. The little things that drive you crazy (like movie preferences and eating habits) are not the real reason the relationship is ending. Now is not the time to pick her or him apart.

Just say, "I think we'd both be happier with someone else" or "I don't see this going anywhere" and avoid analogies. Comparing the other person to cars, food, ex's, vacations, and so on is a don't.

Call once, but no more because dragging out a break-up might give the other person hope for reconciliation when there is none. It's best to just check in once to say hello and that you're sorry, but that it really is best to go your separate ways. Then you can be done.

About the Author

Author Sara Musfeldt's website DatingTales.net is filled with dating stories, and she also provides an guide to online dating with lots of online dating tips.

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