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In hindsight it's easy to say that your ex was a jerk, an abuser, or a cheater. I know because I've done this at least 18 times.

It's OK to justify that a red flag is more pink than red sometimes, but be honest with yourself and know the difference between the two. Here are five red flags that shouldn't be justified.

1. Rough housing. He's no good if he twists an arm or grabs or pushes too hard. Even if he's playing around, a respectful person won't hurt his or her partner.

2. The "Who's that guy?" syndrome. Everyone has insecurities so a little jealousy can be normal in a relationship. But you should know the difference between a little jealous and a lot jealous. If he gives you 20 questions every day, if he accuses you of things that are untrue, if he puts you down and calls you names, then he's way too insecure. And the bad news is that he won't get better. It's just the beginning and he WILL get worse.

3. Listen to your friends. Your family and friends want what is best for you. They love you. Although there are always exceptions to this rule, at least consider what those close to you have to say about your boyfriend. Since they only want you to be happy, there is probably a good reason for their feelings.

4. What happened to the things you used to do? It's natural to fall in love and have a few of your priorities change. You may spend less time on your hobbies or see your friends less, but don't eliminate these things entirely. Consider it a red flag if your significant other makes you feel guilty for doing things on your own or prevents you from spending time with your friends.

5. One minute he's sweet, the next he's scary. Instability makes you worry about what kind of mood he'll be in once you get home or about rearranging your day just to make him happy. The reality is that you should be with someone that is stable and who treats you well all the time.

Visit the DatingTales online dating guide for more tips like these, because these five red flags only scratch the surface.

About the Author

About the Author: Sara Musfeldt operates a blog with dating stories and dating profile tips for everyone. She has also produced an online dating advice to help single people everywhere find a date.

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