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really started to get good, and could escalate with any woman very quickly, I think about all the women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.

But I had my head higher than my ass.

... that may sounds a little harsh.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I was working hard to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd but I've never fully recovered. And I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I've accepted what I am.

Sure, I like video games and comic books.

But...

Do you think girls have cooler interests?

Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I'm into?

It's all have connection.

What it really need is self-acceptance.

A girl won't accept you if you don't accept yourself first.

Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don't like yourself?

She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.

Because if you don't like yourself, you can't really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

In my experience, almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely.

And I'm not excepted from them.

How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and tell you that you are not enough, that you must be more than you are.

The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.

Because being yourself and not doubting yourself is the game. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after making love, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not separate from your game.

The "game" is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.

"But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward" you might be thinking. I disagree. That's not you.

That is the vague you.

That's you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.

Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.

I am not aware of shaping.

Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape.

In fact, it's self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.

As you can see, women are very flexible. They have a lot of things that they can expose to a guy. Men usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it's not the woman's fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach a woman and treat her like she's lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.

Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

We go into this heavily in our workshops. I've developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But the moment I started to accept myself and finding out what I really wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.

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