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"It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction." -- Pablo Picasso

Sometimes in persuasion, the thing to do is to get provocative. I'm not talking about being inappropriate or crass, I'm not talking about being overtly sexual, but I am suggesting that you access the core drives a little, those primal drives that link each and every one of us as human animals, and specifically I'm thinking of the drive to reproduce.

Seduction need not be limited to the realm of mating or luring someone away from accepted principles or proper conduct. Being seductive in all aspects of your life is really a very deeply persuasive attribute. Being seductive is to win over and attract, enticing someone into our desired mindset or position.

Someone once told me that they flirt with everyone -- men, women, all ages, all nationalities, all shapes and sizes, all the time. This struck me as deeply odd until I realized they were not flirting in the sense that they were looking to 'hook up' (as the kids put it) but to charm. Once I reframed it in my mind, I realized that this is a great way to be in the world. How fascinating it is to allow everyone you come into contact with the deeply charming version of you which is usually reserved for attractive person you're trying to "get closer to", so to speak.

Here's another way to view this: it's rapport with a twist.

Not everyone can pull this off and absolutely, there's a time and a place for everything. A caution for women: men are highly susceptible to flirtation and charm and very clear boundaries should be maintained at all times.

Another way to access this powerful motivator is to insert into your conversation words of a titillating nature. This is a circuitous way of stimulating these drives that will give sometimes vague, sometimes intense triggers of that core drive.

Phew. . . sorry about that, got a little carried away, but you get the idea from that example. If it flew right past you, reread the last paragraph.

You can go too far with this one so be careful. People might think you're creepy if you do it too much, but there is great benefit in turning on the lights and bringing these things out into the open to expose how they can turn us into better persuaders.

I may not admit to being flirtatious with everyone, I will say that I do enjoy the process of charm as a way to persuade and, in general, a way to make people feel good.

About the Author

Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of wealthy clients using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion techniques.

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